Balance, General, Life Lessons

The Difficulty with Easy

Why do we choose to do the things that ultimately do not make us happy, and actively rebel against the things that do? I love writing. It feels like a luxury; the ability to sit and express my perspective on the world. The idea that sharing my experience could impact someone else and be of benefit to them just brings me alive inside! So why have I not written nearly a month?

I have plenty of reasons that I could use to justify my blogging hiatus of late – from being out of the country for 3 weekends in the last 5 weeks, to moving house from London to “the countryside” last week and being temporarily without broadband. But these are excuses.

I can feel the hesitation within myself. I feel the reticence. It’s as if I’m getting too close to something I genuinely care about and it scares me.

I’m good at grafting; I’m a hardworker. That is how I like to be known. Or at least it was. I’m starting to wonder whether that is actually something to boast about, or if it might in fact be a cry for help. I work very hard because that is what I think I am supposed to do. I work hard because that’s how you become successful, right? And being successful is what makes you happy, right? What if I’m wrong?

What if the purpose of life was actually to just enjoy it? What if all this ‘worker bee’ mentality is flawed? And, instead of mocking the ‘grasshopper who sings all summer’, we should be inspired and emulating their appreciation of joy in life? Happiness now, rather than potential happiness much later.

What if success could actually be easy? And didn’t require months and years of hard graft? What if success was enjoying what you actually do? This feels like a very difficult concept for my brain to comprehend. And so I struggle to write. Because I find it easier to handle the struggle, than I do to allow myself to enjoy the ease of writing.

7 thoughts on “The Difficulty with Easy”

  1. I think the worker bee persona is more usually adopted by us women who expect hard work in its own right to be rewarded. This is in contrast to some male colleagues of mine who are results focused and delegate as much as possible. I’m starting to think the latter approach is ultimately more successful and may be part of the reason we women sometimes struggle with advancing our careers as quickly as we might like. Perhaps that’s controversial? But it’s certainly what I see on a daily basis with several colleagues.

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    1. That’s a very good observation Niamh – the men I work with are very good at holding their boundaries, and can be almost Teflon-like in their ability to take on tasks. While I have been feeling responsible for everything around me, and working as hard as I can to make up for my perceived shortcomings! I’ve recently been making an effort to delegate more and it’s felt so empowering!

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  2. Certainly food for thought! I work like the clappers when in the office and feel as though I’m always chasing my tail and that whatever I do is not enough, but then when I sit and craft it’s like play, “just 10 more minutes” I tell myself four or five times before I reluctantly put everything away.
    By this standing I’m incredibly successful as have been fortunate to find something that makes my heart sing, but sadly success seems to be measured by renumeration. Perhaps a the definition came from terribly rich men!
    A wonderful piece, can’t wait for the next 🙂

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    1. Thanks Lizi! It’s crazy isn’t it – we hold back from the fun things because they feel too good to be true! As if we’re going to get a medal for being run off our feet all day instead of doing what makes us happy. I am so glad you’ve found your passion and I love seeing your blog post updates! ☺️ x

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  3. Reblogged this on another thirty something and commented:
    My gorgeous friend Siobhan has written beautifully about the struggle to do the things that flow naturally. “sthira sukham asanam”, from Pantanjali’s Yoga Sutras, refers to practising with a balance between effort and ease. Finding that sweet spot in life, as in yoga, is what it’s all about.


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